There's something you really, really want (or don't want) to do. You've tried before and failed. So you can't help wondering, "is there something wrong with me." It's natural to question yourself, to ask, "am I different from other people?" and "will I ever be able to do this?" Here's how you can do it . . .
Anything that depends on your own efforts, such as . . .
Weight Control • Quitting Smoking • Sports Performance • Concentration & Memory • Personal Relationships
Overcoming Shyness • Persuasion & Influence • Academic Performance • Career Success • Better Health • Creativity
Set a Goal
"You can do it" only if you know what it is. To make sure you understand your goal, write it down in as much detail as possible. Get up close and personal with it. What will you and the world look and feel like when you have reached it? How do other people react to you? What do you do differently? What difference does it make in your life? When you can almost see, smell, taste, feel, experience your goal in your imagination, describe it in 25 words or less. If you can write your goal on the back of a business card, and like it, you're ready for Step 2.
If you can dream it you can do it. But only if it is possible. On the other hand, be careful about rejecting something as impossible. Everyone "knew" no human being would ever be able to run a mile in under 4 minutes. Until Roger Bannister did it. Now lots of people do it regularly. Be equally careful about how much your goal depends on your own efforts. Winning the lottery might be a dream, but it is not an acceptable goal. Once you're satisfied that your goal is possible and that it depends primarily on your own efforts, you can move on to Step 3.
Make a Plan
Your goal is a destination and your plan is your roadmap for getting there. The more complicated your goal, the more detailed your plan needs to be. Goals can have sub-goals, which in turn can be composed of smaller tasks, and so on. The more detailed your plan, the easier it will be to follow. Put work into your plan so you won't get off-course and waste time later. You can do it without a plan, but it takes longer and is more difficult. Once you've put together a good plan you are ready for Step 4.
Harmonize Your Brain
Identify and remove unconscious blocks with autoquestioning. The Chevreul pendulum is the most popular method for this, but you can use any method that works for you. Then formulate and apply subcortical instructions. For this, self-hypnosis works for almost everyone. The "instructions" are put into suggestion format and repeated several times a day. This gradually "harmonizes" your brain -- that is, it brings the subconscious part of your mind into agreement with your conscious goals. And when you have that, success is virtually guaranteed (and surprisingly easy).